Over the years I have attended many personal growth seminars. These include:
- The Men’s Weekend
- Lifespring (Basic, Advanced, Leadership)
- A course with Alexander Everett
- The Forum (Basic, Advanced)
- The Six Day
- The Mastery of Empowerment
- The Self Expression and Leadership Program
- The Wisdom Course
- Breakdown Seminar, Money Seminar, Creativity Seminar…..
- Best Year Yet
- Community By Design
- Collaborative Way
- Tony Robbins Firewalk Experience
And and few more I can’t remember right now… Some would say that I am a seminar Junky, and that might be true. However, the core truth for me in taking seminars is that I am interested in understanding and improving myself. These courses have all been useful in showing me a new perspectives that I was not seeing before I took the courses.
To give a couple of examples, I learned that when things are going wrong there is a core of good news there. When something goes wrong it’s because at the core of it you are committed to something. If you don’t care about something it can’t go wrong. It only can get messed up when you care about it. If you look for what you are committed to inside of the thing that is going wrong you can focus on the positive force of your commitment. For a long time I was single, I used to think that there was something wrong with my relationships. When I looked at it through this new perspective I saw that at the core I am a person who cares deeply about relationships. When I recognized this as a strength things changed overnight. I met the woman of my Life, Chimene, and I have been happily married with two wonderful children for almost 18 years.
Another example is completing things. I had been known as a procrastinator and I wanted to work on completing things faster and more effectively. I constantly felt incomplete with things in my life. I thought that by learning to do things better, faster, and more efficiently I could resolve these in-completions. The work that I did in the Seminars showed me that my thinking was upside down. I found that I needed to look at the in-completeness inside of me first, confront the fear and guilt stop avoiding the feelings. When I deal with the in-completeness first then the doing just happens. Weird isn’t it? You would think you need to do something to complete it. What turns out to be true is that you need to complete something to do it.
Of course one of the major benefits of seminars has been my Men’s Team. Although I’m pretty good at it, it is hard to “hide out” when you meet each week with a group of men that are committed to supporting you. I trust these men with my life and have, in fact, done so on many occasions, scaling a 600 foot cliff, kayaking down river in the rain forest of Belize and many other exciting adventures. But that’s not the only kind of trust. I trust that I can tell them the truth about what is going on for me no matter how embarrassing it might be to say it. They listen and they understand and often they have similar things going on for them. Being a man there is an obvious commonality that I have with other men. But it took the Men’s Weekend seminar and my participation in Team Samurai for me to really understand the compassion and support that is available in that shared experience.
They have my back, and I have theirs.
So, call me a Seminar Junky if you like, I’ve gotten quite a lot of value out of seminars.